Memorials may be made to The Arthritis Foundation. Messner, Betty Lou, of St. Charles, Missouri, fortified with the Sacraments of Holy Mother Church, entered into rest, Monday, April 14, 2008 at the age of 63. Loving wife of Anthony Henry Messner, dearest daughter of the late Raymond and Lucille Barrett Oetker, loving mother of Lisa (Cary) Haas and Tony Ray(Amy Hilderbrand)Messner, cherished grandmother of Shawnee Haas, loving sister of Barbara Campbell, dear sister-in-law, aunt, and cherished friend. She was employed as a Customer Service at Growing Family. She was a cosmetologist in her early years and then became a mother and wonderful homemaker. In her later years she was an active member where her children attended school.